Honeymoon paradise, sure. But take note
Mom or Dads: This Eden works for children and you, too.
A woman from Pennsylvania writes:
We are a family of four. Not counting my husband’s mother. If you’ve
ever had a family of four, you know it’s difficult to please everybody. I
would like to go somewhere warm and hang out on a perfect beach, and I’ve
always wanted to go to Maui. My husband, however, hates the beach and would
rather golf or go for a hike. My teenage son – well, he’s a teenager and would
go anywhere he can skateboard, provided no parents were around. My mother-in-law
lives for flowers. Sometimes I wonder if she even notices the people around
her. What’s such a family to do? Take separate vacations?
My answer to her:
Maui can be a honeymooners’ paradise, or it can be exceedingly family friendly
– mother-in-law included. I would suggest a family meeting before you go.
Everybody gets to do their own thing, but they also have to try the others.
Or if your family prefers, perhaps you can have periods of time when you all
go your own ways.
Specific recommendations:
Your husband has plenty of opportunities for golfing, on some of the most
beautiful courses in the world. As for hiking, he can wander into the rainforest
just past Hana on Maui’s East coast – rugged terrain filled with flowers,
high waterfalls, magical pools, and even black sand beaches, which are more
beautiful than they sound.
You have a choice of excellent beaches with names like Makena, Kapalua,
Kaanapali, and Hamoa. The first three are all located near golf courses.
Your son? He should try surfing. Your mother-in-law? Botanical gardens
abound.
So no, Frustrated, I would not take separate vacations. I would try to take
the same one – and have a conversation about what you’re planning to do. People
in any group should be willing to compromise – to do the activities enjoyed
by others as well as sharing their own favorites. It is a valuable lesson
not just for teenagers but mothers-in-law as well.
-- Keith Epstein
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